Transformation and Newton’s First Law

I’ve spent many years barreling along in very predictable ways. One of my life-long habits exhausts me more than the others: Without thinking, in the span of one afternoon, I nag Laura to track her spending, strongly suggest to Howard that our condo board hurry to place a lien on a past-due condo, and email … Continue reading

Be Careful What You Say to Men

When I was young, Mom warned me watch what I shared with Dad. I no longer remember the details, but the implication was clear—my problems would add to Dad’s already demanding work life. He wasn’t strong enough to handle anything other than his own concerns. Somewhere along the line, that warning spilled over into many … Continue reading

Wail after Bombing

The US just bombed Syria. The latest in a long string of military strikes using violence to fight violence to bring “justice.” We keep trying the same solution seeking a different result. No wonder I kept crawling back into bed yesterday. I am in grief about the latest actions of the homeland I love. I … Continue reading

Knowing What is True About Myself

I have been stumped about how to write what I want to say. As soon as I complete one paragraph, I know that the opposite has to be addressed. Therefore, I am writing “in conversation” across my paradoxes. I am a better partner in diverse collaborative ventures when I know for myself if I am … Continue reading

Fearless in a Time of Fear: Loving in a Time of Hate

Fall fearlessly into love.* That may sound like a very weak way to stand steady in our world today, but it is the only way that makes sense to me. Our divisions are too deep and old for lashing out with hatred and disrespect. Something much bolder, more impossible, is required. For me, response starts … Continue reading

Led by Women, The March Goes On

Almost three million women, children and men took to the streets around the globe on January 21, 2017. But they weren’t the only ones involved. Millions of others were intimately connected—marching in their hearts while working at their jobs, caring for themselves or others who weren’t able to participate, praying or otherwise participating at a … Continue reading

Steam Powered New Year’s Resolutions

Tis the season for New Year’s resolutions. However, this January demands more creativity than losing weight or exercising more. In a playful yet pointedly serious way, I penned my resolutions for 2017: ·      Find a balance between honoring my own personality and being respectful. The deep longing of my heart often crashes onto the scene … Continue reading

Pandora, Mother and Hope

To be hopeful means to be uncertain about the future, to be tender toward possibilities, to be dedicated to change all the way down to the bottom of your heart. Rebecca Solnit My mother died thirty years ago on the night of the winter solstice. Many of those years I’ve stayed awake  ’round midnight because … Continue reading

3:00 a.m.

I am no stranger to middle of the night risings. Too often I am wide awake at 3 or 4 a.m., filled with a mix of fear—of real possibilities or something wild from my imagination—and creativity. For much of the fall, however, I cozily slept past my usual time of night risings. That shifted after … Continue reading

Giving our Allegiance

It was a quiet statement, probably unnoticed by the people standing next to me. One hand holding the Sunday hymnal, one hand holding onto the church pew in front of me, knees shaking slightly at what felt like disobedience, I scanned the creeds and hymns to see which parts I could honestly say or sing. … Continue reading